Updated: Now with episode 43: Parenting Twins – Chapter 2
I babysat for friends with seven year old twin boys a few weeks ago. It was from 6pm so I got to hang out with them for an hour and a half before teeth, toilet and bedtime. I’ve never really spent much time around twins and there’s just something so fascinating about them! I spent the first five minutes just looking at them – my head going back and forth like I was watching a tennis match. They are very very ‘identical’. When they returned home, I asked the parents what the most common question they got asked about the boys. Interestingly, “Who was born first?” was what most people wanted to know.
I was so intrigued that I asked the parents Tim and Michelle to come into the studio to share their stories and tips for ‘parenting twins’. Click the player to Listen to Part 1 of our Parenting Twis podcast. While Tim suggests booking friends who offer help, in to a specific time and date to help get through the ‘dark ages’, Michelle recommends writing a ‘letter to yourself’ at the end of your pregnancy to look back on.
We’ve also had some great discussion going on our IOTTM facebook page.
“Make sure you don’t have people singling one out as being ‘the cutest’ or ‘prettiest’ or ‘smartest’ etc, its a really natural thing for people to do when there’s twins, but could be so damaging when theyre old enough to understand” Kathy Roscoe, NZ
Many parents also recommended joining a ‘Multiple Birth Club’ or something similar like the Auckland Central Multiple Birth Club . They strive to “address the special and unique needs of families experiencing a multiple birth, by providing and sharing information, advice and support to those involved with the care and raising and wellbeing of multiples”.
Top Tips and Words of Wisdom for Parenting Twins
* Thanks Michelle and Tim and some of our other followers:
- Be prepared for sheer hell on wheels for the first 6 months, then when youve got them sussed sit back and marvel at them AND yourself!
- Keep a feeding journal/timesheet with name of child and which side or how much bottle they got. Things are such a blur that you forget.
- Join a ‘Parents of Multiples’ group for tips, advice, support, gear etc.
- They are harder in a lot of ways at the beginning but once over 2, the joy and laughs more than double.
- Hire a baby whisperer, au pair or friend to help.
- When friends offer help, book them in and give them a specific date and time. And text to remind them!
- It gets even more interesting and fun when they are teens and then adults.
- Write a letter to yourself at the end of your pregnancy with thoughts, advice etc.
- Take lots of photos – especially in the newborn stage.
Ingrid Ambus from Canada (*mother of the cute girls pictured above) commented that “My girls always have a willing buddy to play with, stick up for each other, make each other laugh, and of course gang up on their parents when they’re not listening/being naughty!”
What are your ‘words of wisdom’ or Top Tips for parenting twins?
Keep an eye out for upcoming blogs about Twins + 1 or +2 (having twins plus more kids).