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Dos and Don’ts in Parenting – Guest Blog

by Katy Hill

Parenting isn’t easy and there are no there are wrong and right ways of doing it. Thus saying that, there are tips to help you through if you are struggling.

Here Katy Hill gives her Dos and Don’ts – Please note, all tips are one person’s perspective and not the beliefs of If Only They Told Me.

Dos in Parenting

1) Do I need to spend time with kids regularly for their consistency development and learning?

Yes, you need to spend time with your kids in order to help them grow in life. The younger stage especially is important where parental care and support is needed. It is important to show that you value them and are interested in their life. Spending time with them helps in building a greater bond which otherwise fails.

2) How do I resolve a problem my kid is suffering from?

When your child is suffering from some problem, instead of finding faults in them, try to figure out the solution. It is important to focus on the problem and try to resolve it using an appropriate solution rather than hurling your child with unnecessary anger traumas.

3) Do I need to keep a check on his friends?

A person’s personality and character most of the times are defined by the kind of people he or she is surrounded by so it’s important to know what kind of people  your child hangs out with.

4) Should you teach your child values and morals?

A child learns what he or she is being taught. It is important that you are consistently teaching the child good values and morals. Family values come from what the parents teach the child- good and positive things.

5) Do I need to help them with their decisions?

It’s important that you help them make the right decision. You are the guide and it is your responsibility to show them the right path. At times they might show unusual behaviour and be sad, make it a point to ask and figure out what is bothering them.


Don’ts in Parenting

Here’s a guide to things you could let up on:

1) What wrong am I doing by being strict?

It is not okay to be extremely strict to your kids because that builds a fear in them and with time they distance themselves from you. Do not be too rigid with the kids because being very strict might leave your kid suffering without you even knowing about it. Always be emphatic and friendly

2) Should I interfere in their every decision?

As a parent it is good to know their decisions and what they want to do. It is important not to judge or interfere everytime ias it makes them dependent and at times incapable of deciding things on their own as they grow up.

3) Do I know what is right for them all the time?

Just because you are a parent doesn’t mean you are right all the time. It is great to give advice but when it comes to choosing what they want to study or pursuing their passion, let them decide because forcing a decision is not good.

4) I expect my kids to be like me? Am I wrong?

It is okay to have certain expectations from your kids but not at the cost of killing their individuality. You can teach them values and morals, teach good things but expecting them to be like you is suffocating their real selves.  This kills their real personality and they might have to live the whole life under identity crisis.

5) Is it okay for the kids to disrespect at times?

 No, it is not okay and no matter what, do not ever let your kids disrespect you. Suffering in silence and taking all the tantrum of your child is not good way of parenting. You can have a conversation with your child regarding things but them disrespecting you should never be encouraged and allowed.

6) Do I give them freedom or give up?

Giving them freedom is good and it is the right way of parenting but excess of it might lead to lot of problems. Even if your kids are arrogant and naughty, do not give up on them and try to teach them good values. Even if you are angry or sad, it is not right to give up because this creates distance.


Parenting is difficult but it is important to feel the kid feel special and cared for along with teaching values of goodness and right things. Spending time with kids and understanding their emotions is extremely important to help kids growth as successful and good human beings.


Author Bio: Katy Hill has worked with great doctors who have experience in dealing with the problems of pregnant ladies. To overcome such issues, she came up with the idea of creating pregnancy body pillows. This Katy Hill`s product, gives comfort to mothers so that they can be comfortable all day and feel all the love and affection in their pregnancy.

Written by

Jacqui Lockington is a working mum. Jacqui works full-time for an advertising agency in New Zealand and juggles life at work with being mum to two young children, Jack and Sasha. Jacqui is married to John and has published her first book with co-author, Nat - If Only They'd Told Me. She does public speaking and regularly blogs and records podcasts. Jacqui trained in journalism in London and worked in radio, newspapers, public relations and advertising before moving to New Zealand where she currently lives with her family. You can contact Jacqui at